Last night, I called my youngest sister Tonya, just to get caught up on her upcoming move to Nevada. Her husband, "Rock" is a career Navy man and will be stationed there after he completes his tour in Africa.
Tonya has always been a big spiritual influence on me, although we don't share the same religious beliefs. She was the most helpful to me when I went through my divorce some three years ago. She, like all of us Gunn kids, has always been an overachiever, especially when she was in the Navy and now in her civilian career. I see a lot of me in her and that was part of the problem.
Tonya, like me, is a very driven individual and like I was at one time, had found herself in danger of losing her identity to her career. Too many long hours, not enough sleep, too much stress and no time for herself made her question her life choices.
Our parents divorced when we were very young and while the rest of us made our peace with that and maintained a relationship with our dad, Tonya did not until recently. She was very bitter about him not being in her life during here formative years.
Well the God & Goddess must've been thinking about my baby sister because there was a cosmic alignment of the stars, so to speak and the light bulb went off in her head. She told me that a voice in her head, telling her that she needed to reconcile. She called dad on his birthday, which was unintentional and they talked as if no time or space had ever come between them. That's the beautiful thing about family.
What did this have to do with her career ? Everything and nothing really. The way I see it, the light bulb stayed on a little longer in order for her to figure out what "The Pursuit Of HappYness" (*The movie was a big influence on her) was really about. She came to the conclusion that it wasn't about climbing the corporate ladder or making any more money than she already has. It was more about seeing the happiness she already has. A wonderful husband, great kids and the chance to work on her personal growth outside of the work place.
I told her how proud I was of her because I'd reached that conclusion a few years ago. I also saw that she was at the point to where she could benefit from learning "The Secret". If you don't know about it, you've got to get the book or the DVD.
Tonya and I talked for almost 2 hours. We were serious, but laughing most of the time. I'd almost forgotten just how funny my baby sister is. I haven't forgotten that she's not a baby anymore.
I love you "Bam Bam" She HATES that nickname. LOL
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